Re: Thank You All and the Next Question ()

Re: Thank You All and the Next Question
Posted by YetAnotherTOW on March 12, 2010 at 01:38:03

In reply to: Re: Thank You All and the Next Question* posted by Andi on March 11, 2010 at 18:07:36*

Thank you for your good wishes. I do find medication helpful in my case, so I suggest that you too give it a try if your doctor recommends it. It sounds that yours and mine ended at around the same time; maybe just one month apart (It was mid-Oct. in my case), so the memories are still fresh. I wonder where each of us will be emotionally a year from now?

Let my story be a reminder to others that a bitter ending can be a blessing in disguise. It gives you anger and hurt to hold on to as you say "good riddance" to the past.

> I had to think about your post all day. Last November I called my MM to ask him not to call me any more. We had a great conversation, calm, loving, truthful. I told him I would always love him, but no one was willing to make a change. This was a LD EMR that happened once before 27 years ago. He told me he was starting therapy because he knew he needed it . He thanked me for being so understanding and gentle with him. He also would never stop loving me. I felt so relieved but afterwards cried for hours. But I was proud of myself.
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> 4 weeks later I called him and basically went psycho. I needed to see him, I couldn't do this, I missed him, whay did you do this to me ? He tried to be helpful to me but he was at the hospital with his father and had to go. He never called back.
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> New Years eve, I wrote him a short email basically saying I never wanted this to end bitterly, I'm sad, and I would always love him. I wished him a happy new year and said he wouldn't hear from me again.
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> So I tried to end it on a good note but it was me not him that couldn't do it. And I wonder why he doesn't contact me! I am crazy, but I miss him and afraid I always will. I was going to go on medication but was afraid of that. So good for you that you have done that and are handling it without drama. I don't think that I have accepted that it is truly over either. Good luck to you. I know what you are going through.

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> Thank you for your good wishes. I do find medication helpful in my case, so I suggest that you too give it a try if your doctor recommends it. It sounds that yours and mine ended at around the same time; maybe just one month apart (It was mid-Oct. in my case), so the memories are still fresh. I wonder where each of us will be emotionally a year from now? > > Let my story be a reminder to others that a bitter ending can be a blessing in disguise. It gives you anger and hurt to hold on to as you say "good riddance" to the past. > > > > I had to think about your post all day. Last November I called my MM to ask him not to call me any more. We had a great conversation, calm, loving, truthful. I told him I would always love him, but no one was willing to make a change. This was a LD EMR that happened once before 27 years ago. He told me he was starting therapy because he knew he needed it . He thanked me for being so understanding and gentle with him. He also would never stop loving me. I felt so relieved but afterwards cried for hours. But I was proud of myself. > > > > 4 weeks later I called him and basically went psycho. I needed to see him, I couldn't do this, I missed him, whay did you do this to me ? He tried to be helpful to me but he was at the hospital with his father and had to go. He never called back. > > > > New Years eve, I wrote him a short email basically saying I never wanted this to end bitterly, I'm sad, and I would always love him. I wished him a happy new year and said he wouldn't hear from me again. > > > > So I tried to end it on a good note but it was me not him that couldn't do it. And I wonder why he doesn't contact me! I am crazy, but I miss him and afraid I always will. I was going to go on medication but was afraid of that. So good for you that you have done that and are handling it without drama. I don't think that I have accepted that it is truly over either. Good luck to you. I know what you are going through.