At the risk of sounding preachy... ()

At the risk of sounding preachy...
Posted by Kat on March 16, 2010 at 10:24:19

In reply to: When does your joy return?* posted by Scarlett40 on March 16, 2010 at 09:07:54*

it's already there, you just have to accept it.
The joy and energy in your life is all around you and has been all along. It wasn't dependent on or because of a man. It also didn't disappear because he's no longer in your life. If that's what you think then (imo) your thinking was skewed.

Where was the joy and energy in your life before you met him?
Likely in your kids, your friends, your home, your activities. It's still there, waiting to be noticed again, waiting to be appreciated again, waiting for you to recognize it again. If the only thing that brought joy and happiness into your life was a man then (again, imo) you should open your eyes a little wider and take in a broader view of life.
Anyone on this board who knows me also knows why I say this and they know I'm not being deliberately mean when I say it to you.

The joy is in the little things, the constant things, your kids, your friends, the recipe that turned out great, the plant that blooms a perfect bloom, the unexpected call from an old friend, finding just the right little gem to set on your table, the stranger who smiles and opens the door for you, the nest of newly hatched sparrows in the tree outside your window.

Stop looking behind you because it isn't in your past.
Stop looking for it in someone else because they have their own to find.
Start paying attention because it's right in front of you and all around you, waiting for you to see it again.

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Re: At the risk of sounding preachy... Scarlett40 10:47:08 3/16/2010 (3)
- Not at all meant... Kat 16:21:22 3/16/2010 (1)
  - It was what I needed. :) Scarlett40 22:25:58 3/16/2010 (0)
- Re: At the risk of sounding preachy... andi 12:08:11 3/16/2010 (0)

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> it's already there, you just have to accept it. > The joy and energy in your life is all around you and has been all along. It wasn't dependent on or because of a man. It also didn't disappear because he's no longer in your life. If that's what you think then (imo) your thinking was skewed. > > Where was the joy and energy in your life before you met him? > Likely in your kids, your friends, your home, your activities. It's still there, waiting to be noticed again, waiting to be appreciated again, waiting for you to recognize it again. If the only thing that brought joy and happiness into your life was a man then (again, imo) you should open your eyes a little wider and take in a broader view of life. > Anyone on this board who knows me also knows why I say this and they know I'm not being deliberately mean when I say it to you. > > The joy is in the little things, the constant things, your kids, your friends, the recipe that turned out great, the plant that blooms a perfect bloom, the unexpected call from an old friend, finding just the right little gem to set on your table, the stranger who smiles and opens the door for you, the nest of newly hatched sparrows in the tree outside your window. > > Stop looking behind you because it isn't in your past. > Stop looking for it in someone else because they have their own to find. > Start paying attention because it's right in front of you and all around you, waiting for you to see it again.