My MM is different Dear Emerald,

I never thought I'd have to ask for advice because my MM is "different".

Well we were having our usual friday lunch date (we actually eat food. In a restaurant)and MM starts telling me about a colleague that is involved in some unethical activities at work. As MM is telling me about how lousy this guy's behavior is he's getting very worked up. At the end of his tirade he states "there is nothing I despise more than a liar!"

Emerald, I couldn't even finish my lunch. I now have a hard time looking him in the eye and he is now always asking me "what's wrong?"

What do I tell him?

Signed, Choking

Dear Choking

I know this happened a while ago, so at this point I am curious what you told him. Will you write again to finish this story?

A story about me (ahem).

MM and I were discussing morals. Apart from the EMR (ahem, again), he has a very developed sense of right and wrong and bases his actions on his beliefs.

I asked him, "what's your fundamental moral imperative - the one rule you think all people should follow?"

Answer: "Do unto others..."

I almost choked myself, and I wasn't even eating. I said, very calmly:

"Oh. So I guess I'm telling any future spouse of mine it's OK to screw someone after we're married?"

His response: "You want this to be a PERSONAL discussion?" (??? where do they come up with this crap?)

Me: "No, silly, if I wanted it to be personal I'd say you're telling your wife it's OK to be boinking as we speak....is it?"

Get real with him. Tell him exactly what you think. Why protect him from your thoughts? Hey. The man couldn't find the word honesty in the dictionary. Spell it for him and show him how to look it up. Hold the mirror to him. Turn on that light. High Beams. He needs it.

Love - e
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