Jaye

"His story of his marriage was no differnet than any other married man nor woman's. The wife/husband has become cold, no spark, no compatibility, no talking..no intimacy. At first I just listened, saying to myself..ususal married man story. One day I met his wife..I understood more of what he had been telling me." - ---

This may be the usual married man's story, but its not the usual married man who will leave this situation and make a new life with someone else.

My affair lasted about 3 months - because after three months, he could no longer bear to pretend anything. He left his wife and moved in with me. Now he is divorced - with no hard feelings on either side - and we live in the house and take care of each other.

There were no children in their marriage by choice, but now we are planning our children and our future together. He is 42 and I am 29. We want to start our family before he is 45. He already feels that he has wasted too much time on a relationship that society pushed him into and made him feel forced into staying with. He wants a family and a life. Because he made a mistake years ago he felt like he had to be resigned to his fate. I taught him otherwise.

I'm sure that our affair is not like most other out there. My MM made up his mind pretty much on day one, and never deviated from his decision.

As a sideline - I have been divorced before. I used to be married to his best friend of 25 years. From the very day we met, there was an initial attraction. We both knew that something was going to happen. I'm just glad it took this course instead of a long, drawn out, traumatic affair - or worse - and we can ALL be happy with the person we were meant to be with.